We build for real rhythms and boundaries in open adoption, guided by adoptees and practitioners
CEO
Isaac Etter is a transracial adoptee and social entrepreneur who founded the startup Identity to improve post-placement support for adoptive and foster families. Using his personal experience, Etter aims to create a world where adopted and foster children feel seen, heard, and valued by providing relevant and diverse resources to their parents.
CEO
Ellen M. Kaplan is a lawyer and former nurse who founded the Law Offices of Ellen M. Kaplan, P.A., an adoption entity. As a Board Certified Adoption Attorney and Registered Nurse, she uses her unique background to guide clients, particularly women and children, through the adoption process with a personal touch.
Director
Alice designs justice oriented programs and systems to help people find belonging amongst the hidden harms of family building. As the Director of the JustFamily Program at www.justchoice.org, Alice facilitates conversations and training on adoption, fostering, and medically assisted family building, all through a lens of radical equity & transparency for every member of the family constellation.
Director
Jessie is a loyal friend who is deeply passionate about her community within the adoption world. She uses her voice and experience to help guide others through the adoption process with mindfulness and intention. When she’s not with her family, Jessie enjoys exploring her hometown and its local flavors.
Good intentions don’t keep contact steady. These pain points break trust:
Texts, emails, and DMs split the conversation. Updates slip, threads die, and people feel forgotten.
Photos get forwarded, screenshots last forever, and a child’s story spreads beyond consent.
Birth families don’t know when to expect updates; adoptive parents carry the mental load and guilt.
An organized timeline keeps information, memories, and important details at hand.
Keep contact simple, private, and on schedule, off texts and social. Everything you need in one secure place.
Birth Parent Update is built with robust measures to protect your family’s sensitive information.
Privacy, no ads, no data sharing, not a public platform, your child’s story stays in your circle.
Peace of mind with automatic backups to your Google Drive. (coming soon)
Designed to store open adoption updates securely so you can always look back on them.
Designed to store open adoption updates securely so you can always look back on them.
from adoptees, birth parents, and adoption professionals.
in open adoption, guided by adoptees and practitioners.
Structured, reliable updates show you’ve followed through, without pressure to overshare.
Set a schedule everyone can trust; no more last-minute stress.
Every photo and milestone is saved with dignity and is easy to revisit.
Invite your agency to view updates when it helps with alignment and agreements. Maintain clear boundaries while meeting expectations and legal requirements within your timeline.
Generic tools weren’t built for open adoption. Birth Parent Update gives you clarity, safety, and proof, without the pressure to perform.
| Feature | Birth Parent Update | Google Photos | Email/Text | GDrive/Dropbox | |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Designed for Open Adoption | Yes | No | Yes | No | No |
| Private By Default | Yes | Data collected | Link-based, can be forwarded | Not encrypted, easy to misdirect | Yes |
| Relevant reminders | Yes | No | No | No | No |
| Easy to Manage Access | Yes | Complicated settings | Easy to upload, not easy to manage access | No | Yes |
| Printed Books | Coming Soon | No | Yes | No | No |
| Digital Frames support | Coming Soon | No | No | No | No |
| Support | Yes | No | No | No | No |
Our platform provides secure, private messaging, photo/video sharing, and scheduling tools specifically designed to facilitate consistent and respectful communication between adoptive and birth families.
Yes, we use bank level encryption and strict privacy protocols. Your data is never shared with third parties, and access is strictly controlled by you.
Only the people you invite. You decide who sees what, ensuring updates are shared with the right people while keeping your family’s privacy intact.
Absolutely. Our tools help families establish and maintain healthy boundaries, ensuring comfort and clarity for all parties involved in the open adoption relationship.
You can set up gentle reminders and structured sharing schedules to ensure regular updates are shared, fostering trust and connection without feeling overwhelmed.
Our flexible framework supports various levels of openness, from occasional updates to more frequent interactions, adapting to your family’s unique needs and agreements.
No problem. Because updates are shared within the platform, changes to emails, phone numbers, or social media won’t interrupt the connection.
No. It’s a compliment. The platform helps you maintain consistent communication between visits and provides a safe record of shared memories.
No more unclear expectations, outdated software, or safety risks, just secure sharing and communication for your open adoption journey.
